How we cite our quotes: (Part.Chapter.Paragraph)
Quote #4
She had been a woman just as my mother was a woman, and yet she was a creature totally unlike my mother. (2.2.59)
Dinah is referring to Ruti here. Yeah, unfortunately, the bond between women doesn't extend to all women. Ruti was like a "creature" to Jacob's wives—which means that status often trumps gender in this world.
Quote #5
In the red tent [...] women give thanks—for repose and restoration, for the knowledge that life comes from between our legs, and that life costs blood. (2.5.62)
Now, this takes the meaning of feminine to a whole new place: the women in The Red Tent redefine femininity: here, femininity is all about bravery and sacrifice.
Quote #6
For a moment, I weighed the idea of keeping my secret and remaining a girl, but the thought passed quickly. I could only be what I was. And I was a woman. (2.6.18)
Once Dinah becomes a woman, she can no longer be a girl—one quality of being a woman for Dinah is the responsibility of serving as a woman, not just as a child.