"Remember" almost reads like an instruction manual. The speaker spends the first 8 lines telling her lover to remember her because, well, she'll be dead and they won't be able to chit chat anymore about their future or who hold hands. By the end of the poem, however, she changes her mind. At first she says it's okay if he forgets for a bit but then remembers her, but finally she realizes that it's probably better if he forgets her because remembering might just be too painful.