How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)
Quote #4
Bathsheba loved Troy in the way that only self-reliant women love when they abandon their self-reliance. (29.2)
One of the main reasons that Bathsheba comes to love Sergeant Troy so much is his ability to break through her shell of pride and independence. Through a combination of good looks, charm, and constant compliments, Troy is able to charm Bathsheba to the point that she totally lets down her guard and admits that she wants him. This only makes her love him all the more, since she's not used to feeling this reliant on another person.
Quote #5
"You know what that feeling is […] A thing strong as death. No dismissal by a hasty letter affects that." (31.12)
Boldwood informs Bathsheba that she's not going to get rid of him with something as small as a quickly written letter. No, no. If she wants him gone, she needs to tell him to his face why they can't be together.
Quote #6
"Your dear love, Bathsheba, is such a vast thing beside your pity that the loss of your pity as well as your love is no great addition to my sorrow, nor does the grain of your pity make it sensibly less." (31.26)
Boldwood isn't interested in the fact that Bathsheba feels bad for him. All he's interested in is making her love him. But apparently he can't do that, so he doesn't want her to go making herself feel better by telling him she's sorry.