How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)
Quote #7
I laugh a little. "Calm down? Calm down? That's my family they're talking about, that's my faction!"
"No, it's not." There are dark circles under his eyes; he looks exhausted. "It's your old faction, and there's nothing you can do about what they say, so you might as well just ignore it." (19.18-9)
Will prevents Tris from fighting with Molly and Peter. Molly's been lying to the Erudite newspaper about how terribly abused Tris was by her family, so naturally Tris wants to attack. But think of it this way: Tris were a good Abnegation member, would she want to attack? Probably not; so, by attacking, Tris shows how far she's traveled from the family that she wants to protect.
Quote #8
At home I used to spend calm, pleasant nights with my family. My mother knit scarves for the neighborhood kids. My father helped Caleb with his homework. There was a fire in the fireplace and peace in my heart, as I was doing exactly what I was supposed to be doing, and everything was quiet.
I have never been carried around by a large boy, or laughed until my stomach hurt at the dinner table, or listened to the clamor of a hundred people all talking at once. Peace is restrained; this is free. (19.72-3)
Tris remembers, once again, how nice things were in the Abnegation household—firelight, knitting, family, reading A Game of Thrones. But now she's realizing that Dauntless has some awesome stuff to offer, too. She's starting to enjoy her Dauntless friendships—being carried, laughing, being surrounded by people, watching Game of Thrones on HBO. Has friendship replaced family?
Quote #9
Marcus shows us his hands. A belt is curled around one of his fists. Slowly he unwinds it from his fingers. (25.120)
Not all families are alike. There's Tris's loving family, and then there's Four's family: one kid, dead mother, abusive father who used to beat Four and imprison him in a small closet. Sure, Tris's family might feel wrong for her identity—but Four's family is bad for his health.